As I approach my 40th year my excitement for the future is increasing. Depending on your age you may think this is either wonderful or utterly ridiculous.
However, I can honestly say that every year just seems to open up more opportunities to learn and the allowances to become a better person. As a young girl I just never felt I fitted my skin, always feeling wrong and extremely uncomfortable in most situations; some people may be able to identify with this, others will not. I have come to understand that each one of us is on our own unique journey or path and our lessons are often very different.
In this short rambling post I would like to share with you lessons that I have learned, beliefs I have changed and am also continuing to work on.
It was not so long ago that my belief was that if someone loved themselves it meant they were a show-off and that you really should never say you like or love yourself because it just wasn’t the done thing.
I now believe that:
We are born to love ourselves and then we unlearn this, picking up belief systems from others or believing what others say to us. We repeat these untruths and then they become our own story. Each one of us is love that is the only truth there is, we are love. We all deserve love and to be loved. It is our job to find self-love so that we can give this to others unconditionally.
My belief was that obstacles were just my luck, that I was generally unlucky that they were signs to give up and just go elsewhere or that it was a message that I was useless or could not do a particular thing or job. I thought that I just could not overcome my fears, that they were static and I should avoid any situation where I felt scared.
I have believed for a long time that:
Challenges are to be overcome to become a better you. Stay within the ‘comfort zone’ and you will not grow as a person. I have come to realise the more scary a situation is, for example, talking to a room of Executive and senior staff the better the feeling to follow. Even the challenges that can have you asking ‘why me’ can carry a lesson to be learned, it is up to us to find out what that lesson is, listen and take action. Otherwise, you may find the challenge keeps repeating.
It is very easy to judge and ridicule others and for the most part, I have found that judgements come from fear. This is one that I am always working on, I think it is important to begin every day focusing on not judging others. We are all on a different path and have unique life circumstances and beliefs. One thing is certain we all deserve love. I think this is also tied into worrying about what others think of us. We worry about the judgement of others and when I find myself doing this I remember this quote:
“In your 20’s and 30’s, you worry about what other people think. In your 40’s and 50’s you stop worrying about what other people think. Finally in your 60’s and 70’s, you realise they were never thinking about you in the first place!”
It is with great honesty I can say that I am happy being me and I have more energy and thirst for knowledge and living life than ever before!
I bless you with love, light and great health for 2016!
Books that I recommend and have helped me along the way:
The power of habit by Charles Duhigg
The obstacle is the way by Ryan Holiday
The Alchemist by Paul Coelho
Living Big by Pam Grout
The gifts of imperfect parenting by Brene Brown
The power of intention by Dr. Wayne Dyer
The slight edge by Jeff Olsen
The happiness advantage by Shawn Anchor
Something more by Sarah Ban Breathnach
Big magic by Elizabeth Gilbert
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