Wow, what a summer! I have to confess I started the summer pretty burnt out, after giving so much of myself and just feeling generally wiped. I vowed that I would rest and reflect to work through some stuff, have fun, laugh, dance and feel like me again.
I can report I have done all of the above and more, and feel great. My first adventure of the summer was a weekend in Glastonbury, a divine feminine retreat by Anna-Louise Haigh where I was able to reflect, meditate, meet some lovely people and have great experiences in and around Glastonbury (link below). I booked this with a friend about 9 months ago, and it really came at the perfect time. This weekend allowed me to get back to my positive self, and reflect on some of the beliefs and past programming I had fallen into. Giving to yourself, in my opinion, makes you a better person for those around you, and my kids deserve a great mum!
As a coach and friend, I give personal advice and empathic understanding, much of which I have picked up through my own growth and experiences with its bumps and forks in the road over the years. As they say ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’, and I know that I have strength and resilience, but even so, as long as we are alive we are on a journey. We attach to ideas, habits and beliefs as young people which we can spend a long time detaching from. As you commit to facing your shadows and growing into the person you are meant to be, there can be some chaos, but if you are brave enough to face the fears you will come out of it so much happier than you were.
I believe I am working on self-awareness each day and I love to listen to podcasts and read books that inspire me to be better. Recently I listened to one of my favourite podcasts @tferris as he interviews a famous tennis player Maria Sharapova, and her natural self-awareness shines through. This is truly inspiring and thought provoking. You can change your mind at any moment or as the course in miracles states, ‘choose’ and then choose again. We always have a choice over our reactions and we can always forgive ourselves and choose again.
Tips for moving through difficult feelings into positivity
- Feel your feelings – the first reaction to painful feelings is to avoid the feeling or drown them out by watching tv, overeating, drinking alcohol, smoking etc. When the pain comes do something to help you face them, for me, it is writing them down, talking through with someone I trust and meditating. The draw to not feel is huge, and so this can be the hardest of all. Believe me, you are stronger than you think and you can do this.
- Feel good – Find ways to help you feel good, look at pictures of good memories and or people/animals you love. Affirm each day that you want to feel good.
- Self-care – Book in some time for you, maybe a soak in the bath, night out and dancing with friends or book a weekend retreat or adventure.
- Laugh – Call or meet a friend, or even watch a funny film.
- Set a habit challenge – there is nothing better for your well-being and confidence than to set and meet a challenge. Growing is essential to our happiness and setting ourselves a challenge will help us move forward and give us that spark of joy. The challenge will differ depending on where you are on your journey; it could be to walk a mile everyday, run 2 miles every day, have a lemon and water when we rise, get up the same time each day and go to bed the same each night. The habits must be something you will do every day without fail for 30 days and so it must be achievable for you whilst still being slightly challenging.
Your brain is ever changing
I grew up with a very fixed mindset, however, thanks to the many books I have read and the work from amazing researchers and teachers such as Carol Dweck and Angela Duckworth I now understand the growth mindset, although sometimes I have to remind myself of the truth. A fixed mindset is where we fix our beliefs and we perceive that we are unable to change for example, ‘I am not good at maths’, ‘I can’t play a musical instrument’, ‘I can’t change my habits’ etc. The growth mindset is when we know that we can change and learn new skills. Research tells us that we can become skilled in anything if we spend ‘’ten thousand hours’ practising.
Think about your mindset, what do you tell yourself? Do any of these self-talk phrases sound familiar? “I can’t lose weight” I can’t change these habits that I have been living for decades” “It’s just the way I was made”. It is all an illusion, many of your habits have developed through social influence without you realising. Many of us think we are highly individual, independent and certainly not interested in following the crowd. This is why ‘live your truth’ can take on a whole new meaning once we look at behaviour theories. Are you really living your truth? Or are you living as our society norms dictate? This is certainly something to ponder.
Your brain is waiting for you to be curious and to be inspired. It is the only organ you have that is capable of improving and evolving, and so to keep learning and nourishing mentally, also with whole foods and the sunshine is preventing premature ageing of the brain. Trigger your brain by learning something new or immerse yourself in a topic you enjoy.
Recipes of the week!
I love to get in the kitchen with the ingredients I have, and just get motivated to make something. I am also loving recipes from a few amazing health and plant based bloggers this week and so two of the recipes I have here are inspired by @Naturallysassy and @thehappypear (check the links at the bottom of the post).
I absolutely love crumble and am always making different versions. This one is vegan and gluten free and was a success in our house, and so I hope you will give it a go and enjoy an extremely healthy crumble, which can be eaten at any time of day, even breakfast served with nice-cream (blended frozen banana). After picking lots of blackberries with my girls, these crumbles were the result. The Omega 3 and calcium from the seeds and nuts are beneficial for your immunity, skin and this dessert contains so much fibre and can help reduce cholesterol.
makes 1 -2 large crumbles
- 150g oats
- 125g ground almonds
- 1-2 tbsp chia seeds
- 2 tbsp of ground flax/linseed
- Pinch of Himalayan salt
- a sprinkle of cinnamon
- 1-2 tbsp crushed walnuts
- 75g coconut oil (preferably a little hard – may need to be put in the fridge)
- 2 tbsp coconut sugar/stevia/xylitol
- Your choice of fruit e.g. 1-2 apples and 3 or4 handfuls of blackberries
1. Wash and prepare the fruit (I do not peel the apples as the skin adds extra goodness and fibre to the dish) and lay in the bottom of your chosen dish/es – set aside whilst you make the crumble topping
2. Rub the hardened coconut oil into the ground almonds with your fingertips until there are no lumps of coconut oil, then add all of the rest of the topping ingredients – spread over the fruit
3. Bake your crumble in the oven at 180 degrees Celsius for 15 to 20 minutes until golden brown
- 1 tin of coconut milk
- 2 tbsp of cocoa powder
- 2 tbsp dates
- half a tsp vanilla extract
- pinch of Himalayan or sea salt
- 2 capsules of probiotic
Open the tin and only use the cream part (save the liquid to add to a smoothie) then blend with the other ingredients until smooth
place in the fridge for at least an hour and then serve with your dessert
Vegan melty cheese inspired by @thehappypear
I am very excited about this recipe as it is the absolute opposite in health properties to the nacho cheese you would buy commercially, and is delicious. This recipe was inspired by my favourite twins, ‘The Happy Pear’, subscribe to their channel on you tube, it is just fab! This dish is packed with nutrients including beta carotene for great skin and eye health and B vitamins for your nervous system and brain health.
- 3 medium potatoes – peeled and chopped evenly
- 1 carrot – chopped and topped and tailed (only peel if not organic)
- 1 tbsp olive oil
- tsp mustard seeds
- Himalayan salt and black pepper
- 5 – 8 tbsp nutritional yeast (depends on how cheesy you like it)
optional: pinch of cayenne pepper
1. Boil the potatoes and carrot until soft and then blitz all of the ingredients together until smooth – enjoy with wholemeal wraps cut into triangles and baked in the oven!
Carrot savoury porridge inspired by @naturallysassy
If you are a regular reader and follower of my blog and or social media posts, you will know I love porridge of a weekend and love to change and experiment with recipes. I often will make a ‘carroty’ cake smoothie and so thought I would take a leaf from the beautiful Naturally Sassy (link below) and add it to my porridge and it was delicious! This is my twist on the recipe:
3 tbsp gluten free oats
1 tbsp chia seeds
thumb size of ginger root – grate or finely chop
200 ml dairy free milk of your choice
1 small carrot grated
pinch of Himalayan/sea salt
a quarter of a medium avocado to top
optional: half a mashed banana, coconut flakes
Place the oats, chia seeds, grated carrot, ginger, milk, cinnamon in a pan, bring to the boil and simmer until thickened
Stir and add the salt and mashed banana, pour into a bowl and top with sliced avocado and coconut flakes
Experimental vegan vanilla cake
I have to say I loved the taste of this but can not say it was light and fluffy, rather dense. However, if you are looking for an alternative to a cake that is nourishing for your body and goes lovely with the coconut cream and then here it is. You could also add cacao for a chocolatey taste. The flavour actually reminds me a little of shortbread.
- 150g ground almonds
- 1 tsp baking powder
- 1 tsp vanilla extract
- 2 tbsp ground flax/linseed
- 2 chia eggs – 2 tbsp ground chia seeds mixed with 8 tbsp water and leave for 20 minutes
- 70g coconut oil – melted is easier
- 3 tbsp coconut sugar/stevia (alternatively you can blitz the coconut oil with 100g dates
- Mix all of the ingredients well in a bowl
- Grease a small cake tin with coconut oil and then pour in the cake mixture
- Bake in the oven for approximately 20 minutes – when golden brown turn off the oven and leave in for a further 5-10 minutes
Thank you for reading the post and I hope you gained mindset and recipe inspiration! Often we hear people talking about their purpose, and I think it can change all of the time and really we are all here to create positive energy for others. Aren’t we happiest when we can inspire or make a difference however big or small? If you think this may help a friend please share.
Lots of love, light and health,